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Kanan Tandi on Body Language, Intelligence and Sexual Abuse

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Incredibly confident and light-hearted in her manner, Kanan Tandi is an advocate of understanding people through their body language and, very significantly, detecting and appreciating different types of intelligence. She posits her own case where she began with the sciences, although she despised mathematics, and switched to the arts and humanities for her undergraduate degree. She says, ‘Because I wasn’t good at maths, I was told I was dumb.’  Earlier, mathematics held her back, but as an arts student she was able to fulfil her potential in history by earning a 2nd rank at the Utkal University BA examinations. This impressed Kanan’s father to such an extent that he shipped her off to Delhi to prepare for the IAS examination.  Delhi had different plans for Kanan as she wandered into radio jockeying but had to give it up owing to lack of funds. She began dabbling in tarot card reading and numerology. Her tarot mentor piqued her interest in body language as she was guided to adjust her

Parents, Become the Enablers of Positive Behaviour!

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By Shruthi Bhandary Chodankar As a counselling psychologist, I have encountered many children who avail of counselling for various reasons. Some children are not scholastically inclined and have trouble catching up with the rest of the class. Others have anxiety and anger issues. Victims of bullying and children with behavioural problems come to seek counselling. Children with suicidal thoughts, who cannot speak to anybody else of their fears and sadness see a counsellor as confidant. A few children even confess about problems in their relationships with family as well as friends (as commonly observed in students of Std VIII, IX and X). Recently, I found an emotional love letter with a child who is in Std V. Disconcerting as it may be, who is to take responsibility for this sort of behaviour in such young children? It is easy to begin blaming the media and technology, but it must be accepted that many of our young children go astray due to the wrong approach of the parents to handling